Blog Posts

Projective Identification

Pretty much anyone that's been in a relationship with a Cluster B is familiar with projective identification, even if they don't know it by that name. It's confusing, disorienting, frustrating, even m...

Feb 7, 2021 Cluster B-sides

Tom Johnson

Delta Chat

So here's some interesting news that I'm a few weeks behind on, especially for those running a mail server based on mailcow. Mailcow now includes a sieve prefilter to auto sort DeltaChat messages to t...

Feb 5, 2021 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

Big Tech Censorship

Last week I likened recent actions of large tech companies, along with much of society anymore really, to the behavior of persons with a cluster B personality disorder on the Cluster B-sides [1] in th...

censorship Censura Censure censuur Pagkapribado at seguridad Privacidade e segurança Privacidad y seguridad privacy Privacy en veiligheid Privatsphäre und Sicherheit security Vie privée et sécurité Zensur Конфиденциальность и безопасность цензура プライバシーとセキュリティ検閲

Jan 19, 2021 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

Cluster B Pandemic

As far as recent events, particularly regarding the increasing censorship and 'tech purge,' I've noticed most people jumping right into politics with this crap. While political philosophies, ideals or...

Jan 10, 2021 Cluster B-sides

Tom Johnson

You Wanted More

Another great song that happens to be quite applicable to a relationship with a Cluster B. Full Lyrics under the video. Love is tragic, love is bold - You will always do what you are told Love is h...

Jan 10, 2021 Cluster B-sides

Tom Johnson

Mailcow Dockerized on Debian

TLDR; Don't run 'apt purge iptables' on Debian in an attempt to fix the iptables iptables-legacy mess of multiple firewalls running on a Debian Buster system. So... in dealing with the frustration of...

Jan 7, 2021 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

Top 3 Reasons to Use a VPN

Why use a VPN? Recently, I read a rather comprehensive post [1] on VPN reselling and affiliate marketing focusing on the predatory/false advertising of VPN services. A few things touched on there r...

Pagkapribado at seguridad Privacidade e segurança Privacidad y seguridad privacy Privacy en veiligheid Privatsphäre und Sicherheit security Vie privée et sécurité VPN Конфиденциальность и безопасность פרטיות ואבטחה プライバシーとセキュリティ

Jan 4, 2021 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

BPD Parents

This is mostly a collection of quotes on the subject of BPD parenting from other sources which just reiterate and otherwise confirm what is said here. Basically evidence that pwBPD (or any cluster B p...

Borderline Personality Disordered na Mga Magulang Borderline Personality Disordered Ouders Borderline-Persönlichkeit gestörte Eltern BPD BPD Parents Padres con trastorno de personalidad límite Parents ayant un trouble de la personnalité limite Personalidade de Fronteira Pais Desordenados Пограничная личность Беспорядочные родители הורים עם הפרעות אישיות גבוליות 境界性パーソナリティ障害の親

Dec 10, 2020 Cluster B-sides

Tom Johnson

Cost of Free Stuff

Free websites, free software, free wifi, free [whatever it is everyone wants for free this week].... Of course the largest companies offer the most "free" stuff. There's dozens of web hosts tha...

Cost of free stuff custo do material gratuito el costo de las cosas gratis gastos ng libreng gamit Kosten für kostenloses Material kosten van gratis spullen le coût de la gratuité бесплатные вещи עלות של דברים בחינם タダ代

Dec 6, 2020 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

2020 Best Worst Passwords

Still topping the list of best worst passwords actually used is all the usual subjects. As practically everyone has been told a dozen times by someone and usually at least a few account creation promp...

Dec 5, 2020 7T4 System Blog

Tom Johnson

BPD's are Abusive

So... something that is patently obvious to pretty much anyone that has been in a relationship with a BPD seems to now be getting more recognition in the mental health world. Like this issue hasn't ha...

Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline-Persönlichkeitsstörung borderline persoonlijkheidsstoornis BPD transtorno de personalidade limítrofe trastorno límite de la personalidad trouble de la personnalité borderline пограничное расстройство личности הפרעת אישיות גבולית 境界型人格障害

Dec 4, 2020 Cluster B-sides

Tom Johnson

Non-BPD QOTD

So the question of the day is: Advice needed: Is it a good idea to make pwBPD realize their mistakes of doing irresponsible actions and showing them how hurt I am or will it backfire if they will...

Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline-Persönlichkeitsstörung borderline persoonlijkheidsstoornis BPD transtorno de personalidade limítrofe trastorno límite de la personalidad trouble de la personnalité borderline пограничное расстройство личности הפרעת אישיות גבולית 境界型人格障害

Dec 2, 2020 Cluster B-sides